Yogic Breathing Exercise for Anxiety and Depression

According to research 80% of the time Anxiety and Depression are co-occuring, and can impact the functioning of the person that is experiencing the symptoms that coincide with those diagnosis. Cause the person to have a lack of motivation and as if your mind keeps going in these negative thought loops. Yoga can be a way of balancing your body and mind, so the state of the mind is calm and clear and the body feels more energy. 

Here is a simple yogic breathing exercise to practice at home: Come into a standing position, your feet parallel and one fist’s width apart for stability. Draw your tailbone down. Lift your shoulders up to your ears, inhale to 2/3rds capacity and hold in the breath for 3 counts and then exhale. Make fists of your hands, tighten the muscles of your face, and hold your breath for 3 counts and then exhale. Now stretch your arms out in front of you. Inhale and make fists of your hands. Exhale and relax. Close your eyes and feel the effects of the breathing exercise.

Confusion and Anxiety, Which Came First?

Some emotions are positively correlated while others are negatively correlated. So on a graph they could look like these graphs below. For example a positive relationship would be the homework you have the more stress, which would be a positive relationship, and the more sleep you have less tired you will be is a negative relationship. 

I share that with you because at times it seems like emotions are these things that we can't measure or hold onto. When in fact, recording and graphing them can help you build awareness and potentially insight into what changes can be made to suite your growth and wellness. 

Today, I want to focus on confusion, and why it can often turn into anxiety. In my experience things come up in life and I often find myself asking how did this happen, and i feel so confused on how I feel and what to do. The more I follow this loop I find myself growing increasing anxious.  There have also been times where anxiety comes first, and I feel worried or concerns about what to do, so I come up with a bunch of different solutions and then I feel confused on what is the best step to take. So, these two states feed off of one another and despairing which came first is about as unclear as the Chicken or the Egg debate. 

Here are some ideas on how to manage these feelings: 

• Take deep breaths. Inhale and exhale slowly. 

• Count to 10 slowly. Repeat, and count to 20 if necessary. 

• Do your best. Instead of expecting yourself to be perfect remember to just do the best you can. 

• Accept that you cannot control everything. Put your stress in perspective: Is it really as bad as you think?

• Talk to someone. Tell friends and family you’re feeling overwhelmed, and let them know how they can help you. Talk to a therapist for professional help.

• Evaluate what assumptions you're making. Is this really as serious as I am making it to be. 

• Stay in the Moment. The more mindful you can be, the more in touch with the reality of any situation you'll be. 

3 Mindfulness Exercises to Use at Home

1. The Walnut Exercise

In this exercise, which is great for beginners, that you can practice at home. Ask yourself these few questions by describing and observing these things:

• The way the walnut looks

• How it feels

• How their skin responds to its manipulation

• Its smell

• Its taste

Focusing on the single object of the walnut is meant to bring the your mind to the present, to what is right in front of you.

2. Shower Exercise

In this exercise, prepare a shower, and rather than jumping in and doing your typical routine stop and think.

- Instead of asking your hair first, wash your face instead or instead of shaving last, shave first

Notice how that feels, what the water and soap feel and smell like, can you taste anything, notice was the water and soap looks like on your body and in the shower. 

3. Five Senses Exercise

All that is needed is to notice something you are experiencing with each of the five senses.

Follow this order of the practice

• Notice five things that you can see.

Look around you and bring your attention to five things that you can see. Pick something that you don’t normally notice, like a shadow or a small crack in the concrete.

• Notice four things that you can feel.

Bring awareness to four things that you are currently feeling, like the texture of your pants, the feeling of the breeze on your skin, or the smooth surface of a table you are resting your hands on.

• Notice three things you can hear.

Take a moment to listen, and note three things that you hear in the background. This can be the chirp of a bird, the hum of the refrigerator, or the faint sounds of traffic from a nearby road.

• Notice two things you can smell.

Bring your awareness to smells that you usually filter out, whether they’re pleasant or unpleasant. Perhaps the breeze is carrying a whiff of pine trees if you’re outside, or the smell of a fast food restaurant across the street.

• Notice one thing you can taste.

Focus on one thing that you can taste right now, in this moment. You can take a sip of a drink, chew a piece of gum, eat something, or just notice the current taste in your mouth or open your mouth to search the air for a taste.

After you've practiced these journal or meditate afterwards and see if you go through out your day with more awareness. 

What is the Window of Tolerance and Why is it Important?

What Is the Window of Tolerance?

When a person is within their window of tolerance, it is generally the case that the brain is functioning well and can effectively process stimuli. That person is likely to be able to reflect, think rationally, and make decisions calmly without feeling either overwhelmed or withdrawn. Typically I describe this place of calm as being in "Wise Mind".

During times of extreme stress, people often experience periods of either hyper- or hypo-arousal.

• Hyper-arousal, otherwise known as the fight/flight response, is often characterized by hypervigilance, feelings of anxiety and/or panic, and racing thoughts.

• Hypo-arousal, or a freeze response, may cause feelings of emotional numbness, emptiness, or paralysis.

In either of these states, an individual may become unable to process stimuli effectively. The prefrontal cortex region of the brain shuts down, in a manner of speaking, affecting the ability to think rationally and often leading to the development of feelings of dysregulation, which may take the form of chaotic responses or overly rigid ones. In these periods, a person can be said to be outside the window of tolerance.

Getting back into the Window of Tolerance requires the practice of coping skills. Such as practicing mindfulness, deep breathing, positive affirmations, self-soothing skills, and yoga to name a few options.

Notice how your body responds to things differently as you begin to calm down, and then again when fully calm, and finally see how you can challenge yourself to stay within the Window of Tolerance the next time you face stress and/or uncomfortable feelings.  

Bringing in the New Year without the Stress of Typical Resolutions

Happy New Year everyone,

Within the last week, I've seen a lot of people reflecting what has happened in the pervious year, the highs the lows, where they have been and where they'd like to go. It also seems like there is a trend to move away from the traditional "resolutions" that are associated with the New Year, which in my opinion shows how people are becoming more realistic with themselves. Now I don't have the research proving that less people are making Resolutions, and this is purely anecdotal, however it is a trend I'd support.

Putting pressure on yourself to change your body, your finances, your relationships can be hazardous if you are expecting quick results. This is rather unmindful to expect to plow down these goals without the right resources and support. Plus, only 8% of people accomplish their resolutions.   I believe this is because of the rigid mindset that people take when creating their resolutions, they disallow flexibity and believe that once they are off track even for a day or a week that they start thinking "whats the point, I already failed, I might as well as not try". Or they have even deeper internal beliefs (perhaps unconscious) about themselves that get in the way such as "I'm lazy", "I'm too weak", or "I'm stupid". 

This is not to say that its impossible to make a healthy choice and intention to change your life, my point here is that it takes more than a step by step plan, it takes a healthy mindset and perspective. Lets look at how external and internal pressures might change the entire feelings and thoughts towards a behavior change.

An external pressure may be from another person or system that exists to complete a work assignment by a certain time line, this pressure can often gets muddled with shame, guilt, and fear, if you don't have any internal desire to complete said assignment. Now, what if the drive was internal, for example you arrive early to work not because your boss wants you to, but so you can settle in, drink your coffee without interruptions, turn on the music you like or put essentials in your diffuser and just sit and get in a good mindset for the day. Change like that would be driven by feelings of satisfaction, peace seeking, and being kind to yourself.  

Resolutions can be achieved if its something that comes from an internal place, with a healthy mindset, and making intentional choice not to beat yourself up if you are not always "perfect" with it. Having support to reach your goals is also helpful, and if therapy, coaching, a solid friend, partner, or parent is what you need to accomplish your goal, then ask for that support.