Quater-Life Crisis

A "quarter-life crisis" is real, and incredibly common.

When you're 20-something its common to feel like "you need to have it all together". It becomes a conflict between "wanting it all" and still being able to have peace of mind. These feelings can create issues with self-esteem, depression, and anxiety. The comparison game that we play with ourselves can be so complex we don't always recognize we are doing it.

But, when you start to gain the skills and confidence needed to create a future you can begin to feel excited about. In other words you'll start feeling less stuck, and feel more heard, and challenged with growth.

Because most of time its our own beliefs that limit us, we put our own road blocks between ourselves and others. In going to counseling, and creating awareness of these blocks, we can help encourage and empower ourselves to change. To ultimately create a life worth living.

 

Loving Yourself Quotes

Reading quotes has always been something that have helped me feel inspired. Here I've collected some of my favorites that I hope will be impactful for you as well.

"Love who you are, embrace who you are. Love yourself. When you love yourself, people can kind of pick up on that: they can see confidence, they can see self-esteem, and naturally, people gravitate towards you." - Lilly Singh

"It sounds like a cliche but I also learnt that you're not going to fall for the right person until you really love yourself and feel good about how you are." - Emma Watson

"It's not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself and to make yourself a priority. It's necessary." - Mandy Hale

"I'm working on myself. For myself, by myself."

"Forgiveness is an act of self-love"

Eating Well & Yoga

Eating Well is more that just eating your fruits and veggies. Its about eating to fuel and honor your body. Appreciating your body for what it does for you, and how it works for you in harmony when its respected. A practice that helps encourage this is yoga, which teaches awareness of the body’s functions and feelings. This practices is especially impactful when you've been disconnected from the body and mind connection.

Yoga can be an effective method of emotion regulation and distress tolerance (two pillars of DBT). Practicing yoga, mindfulness, and therapeutic services can help you by

  • Increased attentiveness to one’s body functions and feelings

  • Improved mood and decreased irritability

  • Improved body image and self-confidence

  • Greater sense of well-being

  • Increased feelings of relaxation

  • Improved ability to focus

  • Improved sleep patterns

  • Diminished impulsivity and irrational thoughts/behaviors

  • Increased optimistic outlook on life and positive mind-state

  • Improve ones relationship with self

I offer yoga classes, both individually and as a group. Contact me for details

Where to look

When our emotions get the best of us, we often struggle to utilize our logic/reason to help us solve problems or create opportunities for ourselves. We may forget to utilize what we already know, and who we typically look to for advice or help.

With that said here are some ideas you may have not considered:

Your community; whether that is your yoga buddies, your co-workers, your online communities, the PTA, your running club, or your book club.

(Now you don't have to share your problems with these communities if that's not what you want to do, but what you can do is strike up a conversation about therapists or groups that they may be aware of. Your network is potentially endless when you start the conversation that will help you get your needs met.)

Your access to the internet opens up doors you don't even know exist, look at websites like Thumbtack, Craigslist, Facebook, Twitter, or Psychology Today to name a few.

Your old fashion newspaper; look up support groups, or therapists in the classifieds or even the "things to do section" of the paper

 

Shop for a therapist or a group counseling like you would a car, there are many options out there, and if the first one doesn't feel right, or isn't in your price range, find someone who is. Also remember that you're worth the time and cost to attend services, if you don't make an investment in yourself, how can you invest in other things in your life?