Suicide is often the last thing that people want to talk about. It often lives in the darkest part of our minds, and is linked with feelings of fear, shame, loneliness. Over the past few years, it does seem that people are talking about it more, more crisis centers are being established across the country. More teachers, managers, parents and professionals are being educated on the signs of someone feeling depressed, anxious, and/or suicidal. AND we must keep moving forward on building awareness about prevention.

Here are some simple things that you can do to help:

Ask! There has long been this myth that if you ask someone if they are suicidial that they will become suicidal, this is far from true, and most people will give you an indication on whether your suspicions are accurate when you simply ask: “Are you thinking about killing yourself?”
Keep them safe. If you are worried that you alone will not be able to keep a person safe bring them to a walk-in center, or the ER where trained professionals can monitor them, and help improve the individuals stability and safety.
Be connected. Often times when a person feels suicidal they are at a point where they feel that nothing will get better, and that no one can help them. Remind the person that they are not alone, and that support for their mental health is available.
Don’t judge, validate, Being vulnerable can be extremely difficult, do your best to express compassion and understanding for why the person feels the way they do. Offer support, rather than solutions in the moment.
Follow up. Ask the person how they feel, and do your best to ignore signs of them needing help.

If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or contact the Crisis Text Line by texting TALK to 741-741. You can reach Trans Lifeline at 877-565-8860 (U.S.) or 877-330-6366 (Canada) and The Trevor Project at 866-488-7386.

Going to therapy can be helpful even in a preventative sense, and here is why:

1. We all live in a society where we are exposed to traumatic occurrences every day and we can experience less stress by talking about it

2. Society isn't necessarily teaching us healthy ways to deal with our emotions, for example: numbing out on our cell phones/tablets, over eating, drinking, sex all with the intention of escaping our emotions

3. Having a solid support system to go to in a crisis can help prevent crisis's in the first place

4. Clients get to practice healthy communication, all which is often lacking from the exchange of "How are you"... "fine", that doesn't cut it, if you really are not "fine"

5. Healthier relationships with ourselves can help us succeed more, and help us open our eyes to what a life with more clarity

6. Therapists can help hold you more accountable to your goals

Going to a therapist for preventative care is like going to the dentist every six months for a teeth cleaning, if you don't go, you won't know you have a cavity that could turn into something more serious.

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