The holidays are often portrayed as a season of effortless joy—perfect gatherings, happy children, and seamless traditions. For co-parents, however, this time of year can bring added layers of stress. Navigating shared schedules, managing expectations, and grieving traditions that no longer look the same can feel emotionally heavy. At WellMinded Counseling, we believe the most meaningful gift you can give your children—and yourself—is a calm, grounded, and emotionally supported version of you.
Balancing your children’s needs with your own mental health isn’t a luxury; it’s essential for a healthy family system. While co-parenting during the holidays can feel challenging, it can also be an opportunity to create stability, intention, and care for everyone involved. Here are a few ways to move through the season with greater ease and resilience.
Prioritize Proactive Planning
Uncertainty is one of the biggest contributors to holiday stress. Finalizing plans early can significantly reduce tension and misunderstandings.
Coordinate pick-up and drop-off times, holiday locations, and travel expectations well in advance. Using shared digital calendars or co-parenting apps can help minimize emotionally charged conversations and keep communication clear, consistent, and focused on logistics rather than conflict.
Embrace Flexible Traditions
It’s normal to grieve what holidays “used to look like.” Acknowledging that grief allows space for new traditions to emerge.
If you don’t have your children on the actual holiday, choose another day to celebrate fully and intentionally. Children remember how they felt—not the date on the calendar. Let go of perfectionism and social media expectations. Simple activities like baking cookies, watching movies, or having a cozy meal together often create the most meaningful memories.
Model Self-Care for Your Children
Children learn how to regulate their emotions by watching the adults around them. When you care for yourself, you teach them that mental health matters.
Schedule time for rest, movement, or activities that bring you joy, and treat that time as non-negotiable. Self-care isn’t selfish—it replenishes your emotional capacity. It’s also important to acknowledge your feelings. The holidays can bring sadness, relief, loneliness, or all three at once. Allowing yourself to feel without judgment builds emotional resilience.
Set Firm but Compassionate Boundaries
Healthy boundaries protect your peace and create emotional safety for your children.
Keep co-parenting conflicts private and away from your kids. They don’t need to carry adult concerns. It’s also okay to say no—to extra commitments, social events, or requests that compromise your mental well-being. Boundaries aren’t about punishment; they’re about sustainability.
You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone
Co-parenting during the holidays requires patience, flexibility, and self-compassion. If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed or stuck in old patterns, professional support can help you regain balance and clarity.
At WellMinded Counseling, we support individuals and families in creating lives grounded in emotional safety and resilience.
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