We hear the phrases “self-love” and “self-care” a lot these days, and it often feels like we’re being told that slapping on a face mask can solve all of our problems. The truth is that self-love is an ongoing process! Much like a relationship with any other person, we each must take the time to get to know ourselves intimately and learn what habits can help us maintain our emotional health, confidence, and peace.

Here are five possible times a day that you can check-in and ask yourself if your mental health needs a little more attention.

First thing in the morning

Whether you simply wake up on the wrong side of the bed or are braced for a stressful day, a negative start to the day can impact your mental health incorporating self care into your morning routine is the perfect way to set the tone for the day. Some habits to try could include meditation, a gratitude journal, or positive affirmations.

Mealtimes

If you find yourself breezing through meals, it’s time for a check in––feeding your body is an act of love! Try turning off your screens and even doing some deep breathing exercises or light stretching before returning to your day’s activities.

Before you say yes

Before agreeing to plans with friends, taking on an additional project, or committing to help a family member over the weekend, take stock of both your schedule AND your mental health! Are you feeling drained and in need of extra rest or alone time this weekend? Do the proposed plans fall appropriately within your relationship boundaries?

When you unplug

When you get home from your work or school commute, or when you finally get to close your laptop after a long day of remote interactions, it can be too easy to turn straight to your phone, the TV, or another habitual activity. Instead, this is another great opportunity to consider a few minutes of meditation, your preferred form of exercise, a creative hobby, or chatting with a friend or family member for some laughs.

Before bed

Congratulations, you’ve now reached the face mask portion of this self-care post! Your nighttime routine is just as important as your morning routine, as these habits signal to your brain and your body that it’s time to wind down and rest. This is the perfect time for all of your favorite relaxation activities! Skin or hair care are Instagram’s go-to, but light reading and journaling about your day are excellent ways to relax, as well.

Here’s a pro tip: this is not the time to break out your planner and schedule your day tomorrow. Focus your attention inward; evaluate your experiences and your emotional responses of today before taking on what awaits tomorrow.

The biggest tip we can give you is to remind you that self-care is about YOU. Experiment with new habits and practices, and cut out the ones that just don’t work for you anymore. Lean in to what makes you feel your best and, when it works, embrace it.